Taken from the Utah Chapter for the Prevention of Child Abuse here is a short list of things your
kids want you to know about divorce:
1. I need both of you to stay involved in my life post divorce. I think you don’t love me if
you don’t stay involved.
2. Fighting in front of me hurts my feelings, is scary and makes me feel bad about myself.
3. I love both of my parents. I worry that one parent will be jealous if I want to spend time
with the other parent. I don’t want to take sides.
4. I don’t want to hear bad things about either one of you. I love you both.
5. I feel guilty when you ask me to spy on the other parent.
6. Don’t make me be the bad guy by forcing me to pass messages between the two of you.
7. Pay the child support. It is more stressful for me when one parent can’t pay his/her bills
because the child support didn’t get paid.
8. Please let me have regular visits with both of you. I lose out when you change your mind.
9. I need help from both of you. You both have different skills and I need both of your skill
sets to be successful in life.
10. Please let me say how I am feeling. You act like my feelings aren’t important when you
say “Oh, you shouldn’t feel that way.” I do feel that way. Please listen
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